So its a glorious sunny day in London. Feels like Summer, as it should be! We dont get a lot of sun here. So any sun is good sun. Its always nice because people automatically appear to be a a better mood. Seeing other people happy is infectious, it rubs off on you too – the key is to let it even when you’re sad.
People handle sadness differently. I tend to isolate myself from people, spend more time alone than what is considered healthy and do nothing but think over and over about the things upsetting me.
That is a bad way to be.
Dont get me wrong. Its good to have some alone time. To get your head around things, but do it in moderation. There is little time to spend feeling sorry for yourself and your situation. The world will still keep spinning, however much you feel like your own world is at a standstill.
Even when you do not want to do things, to speak to people – force yourself. Otherwise before you recognise it you will find yourself in a viscious cycle of sadness day in and day out – that is very hard to get out of. Where your productivity levels are terribly low and you do not feel like your worth much.
When I say speak to people, it does not have to necessarily be at the things upsetting you. A lot of the time I dont like to talk about how I feel. So talk about other things. I like to hear about whats going on in other peoples lives. What are they upto?
I believe that the greater the extent of your sadness the greater the need to be around positivity. Some find that in prayer, others in family and in friends amongst other things. Identify where your source is and seek it.
A little technique that I try to implement is writing down one thing that I would like to complete in a day. Write it when you wake up. Try your hardest to complete it by the end of the day. Depending on how you feel, it may take several attempts throughout the day to achieve your goal. But going to sleep that night, knowing that you have done something with your day – helps in your road to recovering to the cheerful person you were before life chewed you up and spat you out!
Things do get better. But you have take the appropriate steps to get there. It wont just fix itself.
For those that are happy, im pleased for you! For those that are struggling, I wish better days for you.
Have a good day/night wherever you are!